Relationships seem so fragile now. I had some good conversations today. All the way til 2AM, just talking about everything from who we wish we never dated to the serious and inevitable mid-life crises. So now as i listen to
Bilal-When Will You Call (still my favorite song) i recall my current feeling towards relationship. I feel like they are so temporary. Like the happiness is always waiting to end. I recently compared relationships to meteor showers in the infrequency of it's splendor. It seems that there is always some catch. I have yet to be in a relationship where I liked her and she liked me and there was no settling, and no major flaw. Even beyond that, will there ever be a time where the happiness drowns out the doubts? Will I ever be free, to just love and be loved?
Chopin - Waltz in C sharp Minor Op. 64 No. 2 (my favorite classical piece). I pray that in my next relationship that i don't carry any issues into it. The trust issue i have now, mixed with a paranoia of being hurt. In reality though, i want to just say "fuck it" and enjoy myself until the hurt comes. Acknowledging that if i am happy there will be some unavoidable hurt. Pessimistic, yes, but alot more easy on the soul than being yet again cut when i feel everything was going well.
Steadily i wish things went different ways. I wish people who aren't here were here. I wish I was more patient with my solitude. It seems everytime i begin to enjoy being single, i involve myself with someone. Even worse, it has become a past. A chain of relationships that follow me. Some i forget until i really think about my past. Others pop to my mind instantly as if unconciously associated with the word "relationship". I know who i see when i think "regret". I know who i see when i think "love". I know who I see when i think "drama".
Allen Anthony - Alright (a hard one to find).
Still, where am i supposed to gain hope in relationships from? It seems that time doesn't matter, whether you've been in it for 3months or 3years it is just as easily succeptable to termination. It seems even more scary that that relationship, that you are so thankful for at the two year anniversary, you are crying about a few months shy of three years. I have only had one relationship longer than 3 months (and that one was unofficial). It seems that degree of love doesn't matter. People fall out of love. Seems that passion is an important factor. As long as you feel passion, it seems more difficult for the love to fade. Even still, then all the circumstances have to stay in place.
I get discouraged when i look at this generation of father-less children. I feel like even marriage is just a tentative promise. "For better or mediocre, if it gets any worse then i'm gone." I actually feel that i will only be married once. Well... so i pray. I feel like it will be long, but i don't see how it turns out.
Back to relationships; sometimes there are circumstances beyond your control that put strain on it and eventually break it. You may even be trying to hold on, cus you see how good the good is and how light the bad is, but relationships are two-party dependent, so you might wind up stuck out.
Marc Anthony - Si Te Vas (about my favorite salsa). There's always that one that got away. Then there is the one who just didn't see the relationship's potential. As well, people get addicted to the physical and don't leave something they should. People don't want to hurt others so they don't tell them the truth. Some people just delude themselves. People stay in love with the way a relationship was, rather than moving away from what it has become. People try to change people they are with. People cheat. People lie. Argh, i lost where i was going with this entire thing. I think i made my point from the outset though. Other than that, Men are stupid and Women are crazy. Oh yeah, passive aggression sucks.
Everyone settles; the most important factor is to how high a degree do they settle. I pray that when i marry i am not noticably settling at all. (Thus i will do that whole "i found my soulmate" schpeal.) So tired of relationships. I just want someone who understands that most of the time it REALLY ISN'T THAT CRUCIAL!!! Fatigue forms into Fustration for finally i feel unfortunately far from fairy tales and fantasies. Geez, I pray that have very little settling left to do.
Peace y'all.